To make the most of your potential you have to truly own your body. This means realizing that your entire body, from the roots of your hair to the tips of your toes, is the embodiment of your Self.
Sadly most of us dissociate from our body. We imagine ourselves as a mind somewhere in our heads which is responsible for the rest of us from the neck down. This dissociation encourages us to treat our bodies with contempt: we eat the wrong foods, drink too much, and continually drive ourselves beyond the state of fatigue. Then, when we suffer from pains or get sick we wonder foolishly why fate seems to have it in for us. Sound familiar? Rather than treat your body like a machine which seems to break down for no apparent reason, you need to begin listening to what it tells you. Very often, we can prevent illness or heal ourselves by taking the trouble to tune into our bodies. By increasing your awareness and sensitivity throughout your body, you can not only avoid many health and beauty hazards, you can also learn to apply all of yourself to whatever you are doing and so function at a much more efficient level in everything you do.
It is important to begin by accepting your own form. All of us have things which we dislike about our bodies. It may be the size of your bust or your hips/waist/thighs, the shape of your nose or chin, your teeth, hair, etc. We waste far too much time and energy worrying about the parts of ourselves that we dislike, instead of focusing on the positive things and putting our energy into the task at hand. Try the following exercise to put your dislikes into perspective.
confront the mirror
Stand in front of a full-length mirror naked and use a hand mirror to take a really good look at yourself from all angles. Make a list of all the things you dislike about yourself. Be thorough and write down everything you see which you dislike.
Now take a pen and give each item a code. If it is something that cannot be changed, for example your height, mark it with a “I” for impossible. If it is something that would require professional help to fix such as chipped or gappy teeth, bust size, disfiguring scars, etc. mark it with a “P.” If it something that you know can be changed such as your haircut, muscle tone, weight, excess body hair etc., mark it with a “C.”
I – impossible to change
P – professional assistance
c – possible to change
for instance… some sample dislikes might be:
BUST TOO SMALL I/P
I wouldn’t want to go through implantation surgery. Perhaps if I slim a bit I’ll lose some weight from my hips and my bust won’t look so small by comparison.
HIPS TOO BIG C
I really would like to do something once and for all about my weight problem so that I can wear more attractive clothes and feel like less of a moose.
DOUBLE CHIN C/P
A face lift would be too expensive. I’ll look into exercises to tone my chin and neck muscles.
THIN HAIR – CUT DOESN’T SUIT ME C
It’s definitely time to change this haircut. I think perhaps I’ll try a better hairdresser, even if it is more expensive. Hopefully a good professional will be able to tell me what style would suit me best.
DARK CIRCLES UNDER EYES I/C
I’m not sure if I can get rid of them. Perhaps a detoxification diet for a few days would help?
ONE EAR HIGHER THAN THE OTHER I
I think I’m stuck with this one.
SPLITTING NAILS C
I would really love to have long strong nails. I’ll promise myself to manicure them regularly and take some vitamin and mineral supplements to strengthen them.
CELLULITE ON THIGHS I/P/C?
I’m not sure how to get rid of it, but I can’t accept it so I’ll do what I can.
EXCESS HAIR ON MY THIGHS P
For the moment I don’t really care, but perhaps I’ll get my legs waxed before I go on holiday.
First, look at the C’s. Decide whether you really care enough about the thing to change it. If you do, underline it, and make a mental decision to take action on it. If you don’t care enough to do something about it, then it’s not worth worrying about any more, so cross it off your list. Now look at the P’s and decide whether they are really a possibility – could you afford the expense of professional help? Is the problem really that important to you? Again, either decide to do something about it and begin by making inquiries, or choose to accept it and cross it off your list. Finally, count the number of “impossible” dislikes you are left with.
Take another look at yourself in the mirror and this time, beside the first list, make a second list of all the things you do like about yourself. Go on writing things down until your list of likes is at least as long as your list of impossible dislikes. If you run out of things you like then write down the things about yourself which you don’t mind.
some sample likes might be:
People have told me they’re nice
I quite like my hands
I like the natural color of my hair
I suppose my legs aren’t too bad, although I could lose some weight from my thighs.
Make a decision to begin to appreciate and accentuate your positive features and not dwell on your dislikes. The more you focus on your good points, the less you’ll notice or even care about your dislikes.